Man's Pledge

Recognizing that growing up is to a large extent a matter of becoming more responsible for both myself and for others, I pledge to strive for maturity by exercising restraint and by foregoing those activities for which I and the young women in my life are not yet prepared.

In particular, my responsible and loving concern for them will be evidenced by the following:


I will never ask any other person to compromise her moral code for my pleasure or for any other reason, even though we may have strong feelings for each other

I will never jeopardize any young woman’s mental or physical health, her self-image, her reputation or her educational or other future plans by engaging in sexual activity with her outside of the institution of marriage

I will never risk fathering my children in situations wherein I and their mother are not prepared to give them the long-term loving care to which every child is entitled

I will never attempt to use another human being to prove anything about me to myself or to others

I will never ask another person to prove her feelings for me by any actions which either of us suspect to be improper or unwise

I will not engage in conversation in which women or relations between men and women are spoken of in a degrading fashion

I will promote healthy relationships between myself and the women in my life, and prevent destructive attitudes, however subtle, from taking hold in me, by avoiding materials in which women are degraded or in any way depicted as less than human beings deserving of love and respect

I will not seek sexual experience for its own sake outside of the committed and loving relationship of marriage

I will never attempt to influence the behavior of others for the pleasure of exercising power over them, especially in matters of sexual activity

I will keep my own conscience clear and my self-image positive by being responsible and genuinely loving in the ways I use my sexuality

I am fully aware in making this pledge that keeping it will not always be easy, that it runs counter to prevailing notions about the uses of sexuality and that signing it may very well expose me to the ridicule of my peers.

However, I regard these things as a small price to pay for the benefits that keeping it will bring in my life, the lives of those who interact with me, and ultimately in the world.

I will become a responsible, mature and truly loving person by keeping this pledge. I will become capable of establishing and maintaining healthy and mutually fulfilling relationships.

I will contribute to the betterment of my world by not adding to its problems and by reserving my energies for positive activities rather than the undoing of avoidable mistakes.

Aware of these benefits which I desire for my life and for the lives of those I care about, I now confidently and proudly add my name to this pledge.

(*Source: Al Lemmo http://www.cul.detmich.com/chastity.html)